Sexual, Masturbation and Porn Addiction Help Forum

With beiing perfectly fine during the day and then coming home at night and then relaxing and then getting that feeling come over you. I always do great in the day time but then at night, I go to bed later and that is just the way I am, I can't really go to sleep early I'm just a night person. How are you supposed to deal with that. It gets really boring at night and and it just comes over me.
Tonight was extremely difficult. I felt it strong and then I started reading Harry Potter. After that my mind wondered because I was just laying in bed thinkin bout watching tv and going to bed but then I started feeling horny. So I "took a shower" but really brought my lap top in the bathroom (has wireless internet) and watched porn and masturbated. I am still in then bathroom while typing this.... Before I masturbated though. I got on here and read some of mine and other peoples previous posts, and the feeling went away. I was completely not wanting to do it anymore. But for some reason, I did anyway. Something made me do it.
Well, I'll keep trying.
Lately my plan has to be just skateboard a lot and stay out of my room and stay away from boredom. It has been working great except for the night time.
Any advice?
Thanks.

Yeah, I've been there. It's amazing how quickly one can go from being in control to giving in to your desires. I also know what you mean about the night--I am a night owl, too and those are often the toughest times. Keep having fun with the skateboarding and enjoy the sun. hang in there.

[quote="mitch"]Yeah, I've been there. It's amazing how quickly one can go from being in control to giving in to your desires. I also know what you mean about the night--I am a night owl, too and those are often the toughest times. Keep having fun with the skateboarding and enjoy the sun. hang in there.[/quote]

Thanks. Tonight is going a lot better than yesterday

I hope its ok for me to be asking you this! Ive been coming on this site for a week or so now just reading about people in this situation, because my boyfriend of 4 years has a porn addiction. I stated so that i could get myself help with the psychological stuff i deal with because of his addiction. The more i read about you guys helping each other and the support you give one another i really want him to try joining this site. My problem is, his thinks he can do this on his own and i worry that he cant. I know hes trying hard and i don't want to under mind his efforts. My question is, should i tell him how i feel? and if so how do i go about it in a way that doesn't get his back up?

[quote="Cathy"]I hope its ok for me to be asking you this! Ive been coming on this site for a week or so now just reading about people in this situation, because my boyfriend of 4 years has a porn addiction. I stated so that i could get myself help with the psychological stuff i deal with because of his addiction. The more i read about you guys helping each other and the support you give one another i really want him to try joining this site. My problem is, his thinks he can do this on his own and i worry that he cant. I know hes trying hard and i don't want to under mind his efforts. My question is, should i tell him how i feel? and if so how do i go about it in a way that doesn't get his back up?[/quote]


I think that it would be great for your boyfriend to join this site. We work together to fight our addiction and it is a really friendly site. Honestly, my suggesting is for asking him is just explain how we can post our feelings and how we are very much like a family and how we help eachother. Also if you got on the computer with him and showed him the site while your with him, it might make him feel a little better. Obviously, if he is opposed to the site don't bug him. Write down the name of the website and just leave it next to the computer or something and if decides later if he wants to go to it, then he will. But you definitely don't want to start a fight, and also..I know that we all want to help people who have an addiction, but the only person that can change is the person addicted. They need to want it and they need to find the best ways for them to fight it. And this site might not be right for him, but I do suggest you try and have him join. It would be good.
Thanks for posting, and feel free to post some more if you have more questions or anything.

The biggest question that is always on my mind is something that has caused me allot of pain. He doesn't only watch porn, he has also (many times) talked to other woman online. Some of these woman are girls he went to high school with and live in our city other are from dating sites. He flirts with them, talks to them about sexual things, and always asks them to send him naked pictures of themselves. Is this part of the addiction? and should i believe him when he says he has never cheated on me?