I'm a 24 years old lady and yesterday my boyfriend told me he is a porn addict. We've been together for a week now, and he told me that he's trying to get rid of his habit.
He is great, he turns me on, and last night he preferred to leave the bed and eat a sandwich than make love to me. And I don't think he was that hungry.
I truly want to support him and I find it amazing that he was sincere with me and he didn't try to hide it. It's the first time I know someone with this problem, so first thing I've done this morning was to read about this. And this is how I've found this forum.
I'm a very positive person. Things have the weight you assign to them.
I try not to make a big deal out of it. I'm with him and I'll support him and I'm so glad he's not lying or hiding. This is a big step I guess.
I also have a technical background and I'd like to share with you a solution that I'll try with my boyfriend.
The principle is very simple and it comes from physics/mechanics:
If a body acts with a force over another body, this second body will respond to the first body with the same force. Don't laugh.
This is why anti-war organizations will only sustain wars and give them more power by putting more focus on wars. Don't be anti-war, be pro-peace. Are you with me?
So don't be anti or against-porn, but be pro-decency, pro-normal-sexual-life.
Be pro-healthy.
Be pro-having-a-happy-life.
Don't be anti-addiction, be pro-independence and pro-freedom.
All of you guys and girls out there, you can do it, you can just stop.
You all have the power, now you only have to believe in you and just do it. It's in you, you can do it.
I'll keep you up to date with our progress
A warm hug to all of you,
Laura
