Sexual, Masturbation and Porn Addiction Help Forum

I am so encouraged by reading this,I can relate to how hard it is to break away from porn.I almost lost my marriage over it,I'm talking she was pissed off,it was like I would rather look at it than have sex with her.
She told me how it made her feel,she felt that I didn't love her if I looked at that stuff.

It made me wish my wife would do those things to me,but I know she never would.Even though every time we have sex it's great,but I can remember some better times when we where younger.That's one thing porn does to you,tricks your mind into thinking that crap is normal and to have good sex is to do it like the porn sites.It's not normal.

A stronger me,it sounds you are off to a good start and I hope I continue to well.You have really put a seed in me saying "I can over come this".
And mitch is a very supportive member to have around,always has something positive to say,even when others slip up,because he can relate to that too.You just got to get back up and face that problem head on and push it aside as it comes towards you.

As my pastor always said,"If you want to quit smoking or drinking,don't keep a carton in the drawer or a six pack in the fridge just in case you don't make it",cuz you probly won't if you got it readily avalible.Making it hard as posible to get to is the best way I can think of.The blockers help (even though I don't have any here at work),but also to keep your mind on something else.

I just had the urge to go sit on the pot even though I don't have to go.But I got up and made some coffee and cleaned up my office for a few minutes and that took care of that urge.

Hi all, well it happened, I was cleaning out the gargae and came across the old laptop, turned it on to see what was on it, and the old links were still good, I messed up for 2 days last week, felt like shit after it. went for a run, and thought about what I had just done. the mental statagy is was fading, but I have climeb back on the wagon stronger . since then the urges again are few and if 2 days in 30 then another 7 days with out porn is the current record for me , I am doing great. Considering that my entire life was porn filled. its work in progress. In one of the forums someone said , don't make an issue about it. well I am trying that too. Go with the flow but not enphisize on the porn. So now back on track and feeling really good that I just did not stick to the old me, that I was able to return to the stronger me. I feel awsome! me

I messed up last week, too, and I also felt bad afterwards. But, I have begun again and am almost at a week. I should probably emphasize the positive, like you have. The fact that I have only messed up twice in the last 2 and a half months should be an encouragement to me. Thanks for the encouraging post.

well I am still going, a little down to day, seems the demands of life (wife), and the feeling of being a bump on the log or that I am just there to do what ever, have gotten to me today. Its not like that every day, but I can see why I hit the porn. that part, no one ever taslked back, but non of the porn start did the errons , made dinner or all the daily stuff for me, so I really should not complain. never the less, I will go for my run and sort things in my head, I alway feel better durring and after the run. and feel out of sorts if I don't. me

bondage is not my thing

seriously i've been trying to fight this for about 4 yrs and it is ruining my life. Try wrapping it with scotch tape and see how much it helps. Bondage is in no way, shape, or form related to this.

Stronger, I know how you feel--some days are just tough. I hope your run went well. I'm going for one soon, too. I'm on day 8. Thanks for your posts--it's good to hear from other fellow strugglers.

Hi all. yes what started off like a diet plan, (all gung ho) hits the reality of things. My mental statis changes form hour to hour, unless I am involved in work or a hobby. Some days are defeniatlt beeter than others as with any subject, not just porn stuff. But again to be able to express with others and hear from others that have simular disfunctions, has helped me. Tape, I don't know if you are being smart with me, or if you actually do that, but listing 10 or so of the same posts on other subjects. well???

What youve done is physical, not mental. Its all mental! Good luck. I guess if it works for you. then it works.

Today is a good mental day, summer on the way,,maybe a vaca somewhere. Its just good today , and the urge has lessened alot since I started, and that is great!! me

one interesting thing with me was the mental preoccupation with this subject. it is not all that good to be so mentally preoccupied with the subject the lingo etc. when i was posting here regularly i had a wet dream almost weekly but when i stopped posting here the wet dreams were less frequent.

Hi all, last night could not sleep, thought about other and their comments about the lack of performance with their partner. It really seems to be one common thread, wheather porn or masterbation. It seems to steel the moment and feelings of attachment toward your partner. And one would think the ultimate would be the physical touch rather that the screen. Its just a thought that I was going to share. me

well alot has gone on, since running I lost 15 pounds! and feel much better physically. But on the other hand, (no pun intended) I have bombed!, the old computor and the difficulties with my sex life, have left me with an option to get back into the porn shit. I feel like shit, to have come so far. So I start again, and also seeking a counsler for the issues I have in my life, marage, sex, childhood stuff and confidence. The other part that I think set it off was feeling rejected sexualy, or let me re phrase, not feeling disired by my wife. With all daily and famialy, economey money etc stuff going on, it just becomes the same old thing. One the other side is a 2 day get away for just the 2 of us, so , maybe, we can talk about all the issues and get back on track. It seems that we have lost time for ourselfs, and I feel like I am just there. So with feeling like if I were either away from home or not, just would not matter. well that lead me back, I figured someone else is getting it, so watch it, because its not me. I know that sound really bad, but thats my state of mind right now. Ihave even played the mind game ( I hate that) I just wont make any advance to the wife, and so!!!! nothing happens ( which pisses me off even more) I just figured when she wants it it will happen, then I feel that I am at her mercy, and that why should I always be the one to persure, and then get turned down. I am in a mental spirial of emotions, up one day or hour and down the next, *!@# it and then I will make this work, only to fell rejected , and back to *!@# it stage. so I am going to get help and get a handle on it. The thing that pisses me off???? is that its all sex related somehow. the thought of a simple life, married kids and great sex life, well, I gues this is what happens after 14 years together , or is it?? I also thought we would be closer in the together and intemency department, insted its whick button to push on the other so they do one thing or another. Now thats my side, but thats where the problems(S) are, are with me and coping skills, rather than turning to porn! me

Congratulations on losing 15 lbs and keeping up the running. My running has been off and on and I should lose about 10 lbs. That's too bad about the pornography, but I'm glad to hear you are getting help for your marriage before it is too late. Relationships are complicated, and it sounds like you guys could use a weekend away. I hope that goes well. Does she know that you feel rejected by her and that you would like her to pursue you? She might feel rejected by you because of your pornography addiction as well. It might be tough to talk about that, but I think it is pretty important. But, like you said, if she doesn't want you, that's a problem. But, you've made it 14 years, you can work it out. Thanks for the honesty. I've been married over 15 years and I know that sometimes staying together and working through your problems is tough and the grass always looks much greener elsewhere. But, it isn't. Keep working on it.

back from a 2 day get away. the first day was good discussion with the wife about us and other issues, intamacy full swing. second night , not so good, she had more that enough wine and the resentments of my first porn stuff of 12 years ago came out in full swing. she just cant get past that, that is why I could not tell her of current and I do know for sure it would be over in a heart beat if she knew the current. Her feelings of worth less ness and how I made her feel, really hit hard, hard enough to take serious note , that, I could loose her big time. And honestly? its just amatter of time if I continue with the computor stuff. The verbal assult sat night was enough for me, I am going to get help for myself andf have pushed the issue for her. But as some one who drinks, thats pretty hard unless they see a problem. My porn addiction has had affected her in such a way, that at the time, I did not realise how much, and to this day have not been able to resolve that issue, so you could also say, I said screw it , if I am going to get blamed for it, It might as well happen, (cop out for me) but that is what I was feeling. so again I am on the path of no porn and I will see help as well. me

Well today was the first day of councling, went well, more of introduction of issues, but went well, I spent 2 1/2 hours there on all topics. I do feel so much better, I am back and running in the game of life, been clean since the other email!!

well feel great and no impulse to the stuff, the wife showed intrest into running so we ran for the first time together, and talked while running, very good for me and the both of us. we both have issues and hopefully she will take the sujestion of a couple meeting or coulnsling. so in the big picture. it seem that the issue(s) are comming out and getting ready to be worked on. I have now lost 21 pounds and feel great, so lots of positives now and still moving ahead, I think......this....might do the trick for me, The nice thing about councling is that I can actuaslly talk to the counsler (a woman) and not be put down or looked upon as a pervert, but rather as a guy with issues that need to be addressed and worked on. so that has really helped. me