Sexual, Masturbation and Porn Addiction Help Forum

That's great. I went for a run today, too, when I was feeling weak. And it helped, I think. Keep going, stronger me.

good for you fantastic

I concur, today was a great day. Too bad my sweet companion is not here, she is on vacation with our son. But I have been doing a lot of praying and reading and constructive thought process. Glad I came back here

keep running, if that helps, you are working on you! get involved, if it a church event, a wood working project, a movie, just do it start to break the pattern, then start to look at why, when, how, on your addition. When I run , I think and go back to events in my life that a keys or turning points, and when I get back I write them down so I can go over my issues either then or later. But right now , for me is to break the hold it has on me , so I can see clearer my mind is clearer and not under the influnce, orin fragile state that I would buckle under the pressure amd hust go back to the porn, Because that is one of what it is, bitter sweet, comfort yet shame, rounteen yet obsesed. I have found that since I started this and was motivated by the site and its members, It was just what I needed to make a change. thank you all, I am doing great,its still on my mind but not as strong, manageable, sorta like the movie the beautiful mind, when the 3 illusions are whith hime for life , but where he can seperate fact from illusiuon. If you have not seen the movie, see it. a stronger me,,,,,,, keep going guys!! you can do this !!!!!!

I think I need a name like your's "a stronger me" with a goal. Last night, my goal of 60 days was shattered at 59 because I was weak. I admire your strength and your desire to stop. I'm a runner, too. Maybe I will try to use that to work through some of my thought patterns, like you are. Anyways, I pray, as you do, for the day when I can stay strong.

well its still going strong and I am still involved in positive stuff, the wife has been back since sundaym I thought it would be aevening of passion, then monday I had pressured her so much she gave in , but it was not what I wanted, we had talked about today, but dhe had stuff to do. and this evening she fell asleep. SO! this is what I take as major rejection, or no time for us , but time for all other stuff, And this is what made the porn so positive to me , no fight, no [retend, no rejection amd everyone is game for the sex, and all sorts of it with no complaints, sound like a great time , right?? But its not with my wife. So I have been tested 5 times in 3 days, its been an emotional hell. I have not had the urge for porn , but what a hell of emotions, I feel very rejected, a bump on the log. after 14 years , I guess this is how it goes, I have tried to spark the love life and every now and then there is a spark , but on the most its me to make the advances and either get it or get turned down, night day afternoon early morning. her day is planned nut" you cant plan sex" why the *!@# not! make time for it, every thing else has a time, kids to school, favorate tv show, time for dinner, plan dinnerm why not sex time@ or play time. I am really just pissed off, and there will be another excuse tomorrow, you bet. for me my mentaly changes, I just say *!@# it, how would she like to be turned down ( the only problem with that is she does not advance, she get into it when its happing, but she does not start itm that alone does wonders for my sex drive, and when turned down, thats major. well on the positive, I can write you guys, I have not steered away, I figure I will run my heart out so that I am so tired that when night comes I am too damm tired!

Marriage can be great, but it can also be frustrating at times. For us men, it would turn us on just to have our wives say, "I want you, now." So, I think when we in essence do that to them, we wonder why they turn us down or are not interested. It is frustrating, but I have found that women sometimes need a little more caressing both literally and figuratively. If I buy my wife flowers or her favorite ice cream, or watch a chick flick that I know she loves (when I would much rather watch something else). Or if I do something around the house for her or compliment her in some way, this is more effective than saying, "okay, its time...", which would probably be enough for me. Every woman is different and I'm sure you know what special things you could do for or say to your wife to make her happy. And, sometimes I can act like sex is my right since I did all this for her. Now, if she doesn't respond to any of those things you do and say, then there may be some deeper issues. I know you're frustrated and if she knows you struggle with porn and she wants to help you, she should know that withholding her affections in this way is not helping you. Hang in there.

being a male I of course jumpped the gun, we talked about what was going on (lack oflove life) and for the time it seems to be on a better course!. The porn , I have not had the urge, and I am really puzzled why, I figured it would come back in a vengence. The drive seems to be a lot less, since the breaking away or hell weeks of cold turkey. I feel great, it seems like a differen kind on normalicy, one with out the porn driving the car. I am in control. I have been running and lost 1 pound , but have gained strenght both physical and mental. Keep going guys you can do this , one day at a time , start NOW!!!!!! No more porn NOW!!! and go for it! me

That's great. Keep up the good work. I'm trying to follow--three days so far. I'm glad things are looking up. Let's keep it up.

You can do this 3 days is a great start! Just think , you are doing it and in control of that , keep going!!! me

a couple of notes, still going strong, some urges, but on the most part, still able to sort them out logically, never be able to do that before. Association with positive habits seems to work well with me na dtrying to get away from old porn habits," The routeen". very proud of myself and the first time I really put it all into perspective and chaged every thing to make it harder for me. Th eone thought that was always on my mind is that I could not get turned on unless porn was a part of it, that if I failed to perform naturally, then porn was the for sure back up to turn me on. But other feelings are starting to resurface, and skin feeling as well. when the porn thing was happing and one is tuggin on it, you would think that the slightest touch would do nothing , but after some time, the sensitivity is starting. The changes are possible and that that feeling that if you give it up, that all is lost, but it is not. Its truley amazing. And the tender moments that would not happen with porn influnced sex or self pleasure, are comming out, and I am very greatful for that.
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well doing really well, went for a run, and had a giant urge ro go on line for porn, so I am writting this. rather than follow the urge. it seem s to help, and that I also realize by doing this and giving me some time to reakky think what was going to happen, I realize its not worth it, and that I have done so well to this point. I feel better. me

Stronger, keep going. You're doing well. I went for a great run today, too. I was feeling down a couple of days ago, and usually when I do, I tend to masturbate or look at porn, but I didn't. So, thank God, for the small victories. I have been free for 12 days so far. Keep being strong, just like your name.

Feel great today, the last urge and strongest is behind me. feel down for the moment that I could not perform with the wife, my peter was unresponsive at that moment, but onward. It was just one of those things too much pressure put on the moment. but there will be other times that he will be ready! Other than that I feel great, been running and going through things. Made a list today of goals to achieve, small and large. I have not done that in a while. It used to be when I had time on my hands , that I would hit the porn, but making a list, and when I have time , I go to the list and pick one , do it in stages until it is complete. Another routeen breaker/ I will tell you , switching the computor around, and changing passwords, and just making it harder to get on the porn stiuff, has done wonders. The urges are there, but all of them not as strong as when I first statred, I will say this too, the urge I had the other day was more about what new pron I had missed, what new web site came up, any new photos, the courisioty was hard. butI feel great that I did not give in. I also feel more productive, I am out and about, more famialy time, some of the projects that I wanted to do, are getting done with out the interuption of the 1hr or 2hr or 3hr porn break. I just feel really good about it. And the fear or shame feeling right after the viewing, is not there. thanks me

Had a rough day today. I know what you mean about the urges still being there. But, I fought through it and was very thankful I did because when my wife came home...I had saved myself for her. Keep it up, you're doing great!